Do you have a sense of purpose? Is there a deep ache in your bones that there is something you must do before you leave this world?
Trauma and grief can be wake-up calls - catalysts for self-reflection and perhaps a path to an intentional life for the individual and the species. Does purpose come from a unique talent? Perhaps purpose comes from a connection to others and sharing your life experiences in order to ensure people they are not alone.
Singer/songwriter and author Ross Victory uses his voice and talents to model how he channeled grief into life-affirming action.
Singer/songwriter and author Ross Victory uses his voice and talents to model how he channeled grief into life-affirming action. Victory shows the L.A. community how sadness were not only his catalyst to personal change and deeper existential understanding, but grief released reservoirs of creativity with entertainment and educational value - music and books.
This self-made Artistpreneur lost his father, Bert, to prostate cancer under a state of elder abuse and fraud from a close family member. Three years before his dad's passing, Victory lost his older brother, Jason, to an aggressive form of brain cancer.
Before losing family members, Victory was stubborn about seeking help to process emotions and reaching out for assistance. Victory admits that he was like millions of men and thought he could "sleep off" the woes of his life or "lift weights" to push through the frustration. One day he could not breathe, and his blood pressure was over 150. He knew it was time to start down the road of repair, and it was worth the investment.
A significant part of his healing came in written words – journals, songs, and literature pieces. The writing process alone was cathartic and an exercise in being vulnerable.
How Ross Victory Is Impacting Los Angeles
An L.A. native to Inglewood, Pasadena, and now Downtown, In 2019, Victory decided to write about the relationship with his late father. Journal entries transformed into three hundred pages. Three hundred pages transformed into speaking to other men about their relationships with their fathers and the stigma related to mental health.
Recommended for You
Views from the Cockpit is an emotional yet provocative recount of divorce, betrayal, and abuse. Still, how the book came into being and all the other creative ventures that came afterward confirms the beeline between trauma processing and creativity.
Ross Victory is philosophically inclined on the page, but also face to face. Victory says, "He believed that creating a 'book' would give his father's memory wings in a different, more permanent, meaningful form." He says that "the idea of keeping my dad alive was a source of endless energy. I felt like if I could finish this book and publish it, he would exist in the world still, and others would have access to him."
During the writing process, Victory remembered the love he had for music and storytelling as a child. During the COVID-19 pandemic, Victory has published three more titles, and a total of ten songs to his humble, but eager social media followers.
When asked what he hope to accomplish with his new found freedom and understanding of personal legacy, I want to become a key (black male) producer in the literary and music spaces, an investor, and notable business person. I want to invest in cafés, bars, support groups, and tangible ways to build community. It’s also essential to teach creatives in disadvantaged communities how to be entrepreneurs so that they don’t need to depend on others financially.”
The light bulb, the automobile, and the wheel were built by people pursuing their life's purpose. And because of their internal drive, the quality of our life has increased.
Victory shows us that our voice is uniquely ours and it’s up to us to use it!